People Don't Change, But.

The phrase "I want to..." is the best motivation one can have. I always believe that. Because it shows that our conscience is starting to play its role and tell us what is supposed to be done, or not done. It leads us to a whole new level. However, in certain matters, "I want to..." doesn't mean a shit.

Let's take the phrase "I want to change" as an example. Yes, it's so famous that almost every living soul that breathes on this Earth and can speak a language has produced it once, at the very least. But, saying "I want to change" doesn't necessarily mean you will change, right? So in this case, "I want to..." is just a decoration to make you feel better.

I say that people can never change. I say that people will never change. I say that you are just as same as how you were ten or twenty years ago. Agree? Hold your phone! Allow me to justify my point.

I'm not saying that if you were once a thief, murderer or psychopath, you can't change that and will remain the same now or in the future. Nope, everybody deserves a second chance. Everybody deserves to try and improve themselves. There's nothing wrong in that.

My point is, people can only change what they do; to stop doing or to continue. If you're a thief and want to change, you will stop stealing things. If you don't want to change, you will continue doing it. But the fact that you were a thief back then remains. However different you claim you are now, your instinct and desire to steal remains; but hidden and asleep. That's it.

In easy words, when people say that they have changed, that is not entirely true. They are still the same person. They still got the same instinct, desire or habit, whatever you call it. The only difference is, they have stopped doing all those things they used to do. They have thrown away the trigger.

So question; who has the trigger now? The surrounding people. And we are the surrounding people. We have the trigger and it is up to us whether or not to pull it. If we do, then everything will be the same again, they will become the old ones once more, and we are assholes.

Those bad people who want to change, they have entrusted us with the trigger. Do not pull it. Do not wake them up. Do not make them take the same road again.

p/s: For some reasons that I can't explain, I think I'm being an asshole at the moment. Maybe because it's hard to see other people change while I don't. I don't know. I keep pulling the trigger. I'm sorry, though. I'm still learning.


JAI February 18, 2010 at 10:15 AM  

People don't change but what can change is the things that they do...

Mknace February 18, 2010 at 10:23 AM  

the things really matter here is in the individual itself..

|arieza| February 18, 2010 at 10:24 AM  

this is just so true. it is like a disease that stays passive in u. the viral is still there, but it is just not active,, but when some triggers kick in, the whole process may start again, relapsing, so to call it.

:) nicely written :)

Igniz February 18, 2010 at 1:51 PM  

jai: exactly my point. :)

Mknace: and the people around.

ariezal: thank you. :)

phyto hystrix February 18, 2010 at 4:05 PM  


Whatever it is, things will resolve in time,hopefully. Always, we wonder why things go the way they are, especially how we behave and react towards one another. But for sure, we'll get through it, making us finer. Yes I agree, the choice is ours to make. And it sure can be a good one,insyaAllah..

It's about time. Butterflies aren't beautiful when they were caterpillars,but they change into graceful creatures after a phase. The same goes for us, we have to go through such phases in life and after each, we'll find ourselves better. Try not to take it hard,it'll soon pass to leave behind a reward.. :)

Igniz February 18, 2010 at 4:24 PM  

phyto hystrix: thank you very much for the thought. :)

anak pak man February 18, 2010 at 5:32 PM  

let's use that thief example..

say i (being everyone else) hold the trigger to the now ex-thief.. how do i trigger this thief inside him? what's the trigger?

Igniz February 18, 2010 at 6:46 PM  

anak pak man: okay, first of all, this is just my opinion. you can agree or disagree.

for your question; a lot. and so many types and situations. let's say u (everyone else) are a thief yourself. by being one and close to him, you can pull the trigger. like how an ex-drug addict gets involved in drugs again because he hangs out with another drug addict.

or, you're a family, a friend or the society, but you don't accept this ex-thief into your world. u still label him as a thief. you still put him in distance. so one day out of desperation, he has to be one (like how u describe him) since you people still treat him like a thief even though he's no longer doing that. pressure of isolation.

sometimes bad people don't become bad out of nothing. sometimes it's the people around who force them to become bad. words. attitudes. treatment. relationships. all these things if not handled well, can become the trigger.

and imagine, if everyone else around u says you're stupid, then one day you're gonna believe that you're stupid, right? although maybe it's not true at all. same concept here. this one has got something to do with the Pygmalion effect. u can check it under my psychology genre. :)

aiMo0o February 19, 2010 at 3:46 PM  

i like what phyto hystrix commented...
everyone needs to go on phases before they became what they are now.. very very true... =)

Igniz February 19, 2010 at 6:45 PM  

aimooo: Hee. :P

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